Friday, December 6, 2019

Is parenthood the sole purpose of life?


‘A woman’s life is not complete without experiencing motherhood’. ‘It is the deep desire of every woman to become a mother.’ These were the common sayings I started hearing from childhood. When I look at the olden days, the first saying made a lot of sense. A woman’s duty was to look after the house and just serve others. Then being a mother gave her an opportunity to call something her ‘very own’, the new life that was totally dependent on her gave her a sense of being someone in power.
And the second one, ‘It is the deep desire of every woman to become a mother’ no longer holds true. Many youngsters approach me to find a solution to the intense stress they experience by undue pressure from parents and in-laws to conceive and she is not interested at all.

Stress beyond imagination

No doubt, motherhood is an amazing experience, but so are many other things in life. For somebody who is creative, a literary work or artistic expression can give equal or more joy and fulfillment. To a modern working woman without any help from relatives, motherhood is a high stress situation. Since I am a healer I get to hear from many youngsters that they are not interested in having a child, but parents and relatives are forcing them so much. One lady went ahead and had a baby and a week after the child was born (on experiencing exhaustion of looking after the new born and sleepless nights), she shouted at the mother, “If you pressurize me to have another child, I will kill you and the child.” To talk like that to one’s mother, you can imagine the frustration she must have had.

Goody goody three years

Taking care of a baby up to three years of age is a very pleasant experience, if one is not sensitive about the physical work involved. Once the child starts developing its own mind, it becomes a daily tug of war. Mother of a five year old told me in utter despair, “When he comes home from school, he will take my mobile phone and keep playing with it till the battery charge is exhausted. He won’t go out and play with friends.” When I asked why she couldn’t hide the phone, she told that she has tried and wherever she hid, he would dig it out! And once the child becomes a teenager, parents get diabetes and high blood pressure from the day to day tension. Of course these types of challenges were there in the yester years too, but there is no comparison as the present day children have access to the internet and they know millions of ways to ‘enjoy’ life.

Humans are the cancer on the earth

By overpopulation and by destroying the earth in every possible way, humans are proving to be the cancer on the earth. Look at all other living beings. They live in tune with the Nature and give back to the nature more than they take from it. But we as a race believe in over consumption and destruction.
At the soul level, we are aware of the fact that we are all One and it is time to curtail this overpopulation. I strongly recommend reading Michael Newton’s ‘Journey of souls’  to understand that in the life between life stage we make a blue print of the future incarnation we are going to take. Many souls decide to not have children and that is the reason they don’t conceive naturally. Modern science has advanced so much that there are many successful methods to over ride nature. But sadly, sometimes nature retaliates.

Let us look at IVF

IVF is commonly recommended for the following fertility problems: in case of blocked or damaged fallopian tubes or any other problem where IVF has been identified as the only treatment likely to help one get pregnant, if the partner has a minor problem with his sperm, as a primary treatment for infertility in women over age 40.
In the stimulation phase, IVF treatment starts from day 1 of the period. In a natural monthly cycle, the ovaries normally produce 1 egg. Medication is administered for 8-14 days to encourage the follicles in the ovaries (where the eggs live) to produce more eggs. The specialist prescribes medication specific to the client’s body and treatment plan. It’s usually in the form of injections, which can vary from 1-2 for the cycle, or 1-2 per day. It can be daunting, but the fertility nurse will be there to show exactly how and where to give the injections. The partner can get involved too and watch and learn together to get it right. It quickly becomes a habit and one becomes an expert in no time.
Later, the eggs are collected from the ovaries under general anesthesia. The fertilization takes place in a dish, embryo is transferred into a special incubator where the conditions for growth and development are perfect. In about 5 to 6 days the embryo is transferred into the uterus. In some weak, or incompetent, cervix cases, a cervical stitch will be scheduled during early pregnancy to try and stop the cervix opening and potentially initiating a miscarriage.

So basically, when the mother decides ‘by hook or crook I am going to get a baby’, this thought with its emotion is transferred to the baby, or a soul with similar thought pattern will be attracted to the womb. 

And when a child is born by surrogacy, it is going to inherit the moral fabric of the surrogate mother, who in many cases will be doing it for the money.

The outcome can be disastrous

When the pregnancy has been achieved by torturing the mother’s body, the message the child gets is ‘I am precious, you are dispensable.’ When that child becomes an adult and starts behaving in the same line, all hell is let loose, as can be seen here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7ywewMLSYKQ


From where is he/she getting this moral character? It is the parents who mould the child’s character. When proper basic foundation is not provided, because they are not treated as another ordinary family member, but as somebody so precious (remember all the struggles undergone to get a progeny?), how can they act normal and be compassionate?

Embrace and enjoy life

Remember that you have planned your life at the soul stage. Live in the moment and enjoy to the fullest. If you are blessed with children in the normal biologic way, go ahead and enjoy parenthood. Believe that we are souls out here to get a human experience. Either we have been parents in our previous lives or will be in future lives. If at the soul level we have decided to not have children in this life, it is to gain experience and expertise in some other field. Find it out and get head on into it and achieve maximum experience. Don’t compare your life with others’ lives and make it hell.



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