When a Soul Chooses Not to Marry: A Lesson from Past Life Regression

 

 

In many families and communities, marriage is seen as a milestone that must happen at a certain age. When it doesn’t, questions begin to arise—first gently, then insistently. Parents worry, relatives speculate, and society begins to label the situation as a “problem.”

Recently, during a past life regression session with a client, I witnessed a story that offered a deeper perspective on this very issue.

A Family Carrying Many Burdens

The woman who came to see me was the third daughter in a family of five girls. She was 31 years old and deeply distressed that she had not been able to find a suitable partner despite many attempts.

Her family history carried its own challenges. Their mother had been widowed at a young age and had single-handedly raised all five daughters.

Life had already taken difficult turns for the older sisters.

The eldest daughter had married and had two children, but her husband later left her and married someone else. He now has another child with his second wife. The eldest daughter lives with her mother along with her two children.

The second daughter also married, but the marriage ended almost immediately after the honeymoon. She too returned home.

Now the third daughter—my client—was trying to marry, but nothing seemed to work out. Meanwhile, two younger sisters were still waiting for their futures to unfold.

The entire family was asking the same question: “Why is this happening to us?”

Exploring a Past Life

Because of the emotional distress she was experiencing, the third daughter decided to undergo past life regression therapy.

During the session, she entered a lifetime that appeared to be from a few generations earlier.

In that life, she saw herself as a married woman with four children. Her husband was socially active and often brought guests home without warning. She was left to manage everything alone—raising the children, cooking, preparing snacks and tea for guests, and running the household.

Despite her relentless effort, she never received appreciation or support. Instead, she experienced neglect and emotional hardship.

She endured this life silently, carrying the weight of responsibility without companionship or kindness.

Eventually, her life ended under suspicious circumstances, leaving behind deep emotional pain.

The final thought that shaped the current life

At the moment of her death in that lifetime, a powerful thought arose within her:

“I have given my life to this man. He never cared. I do not need a man. I am capable of living my life on my own”

According to the understanding of soul memory in regression work, the final emotional imprint of a life can sometimes influence future incarnations.

In this case, the soul seemed to carry forward a profound decision—to live independently without relying on a man.

 A Conflict Between Soul and Society

Now in her present life, the soul may not feel an inner need for marriage. Yet she lives in a society where marriage is still seen as a necessity.

This creates a painful conflict. Her mother worries. Relatives keep asking the same question again and again:

“When are you getting married?”

But what if the soul itself has already chosen a different path?

 A New Generation of Women

Many women across generations have endured difficult marriages marked by neglect, emotional abuse, or narcissistic behavior.

Some of them may have made a deep inner decision—consciously or unconsciously—that they no longer wish to repeat that experience. Today we are witnessing a generation of women who are less willing to tolerate unhealthy relationships simply to satisfy social expectations.

They seek dignity, respect, and emotional safety. And if those are not present, they may choose a different way of living.

Respecting a Soul’s Journey

Instead of constantly questioning unmarried women or treating them as incomplete, perhaps society needs to shift its perspective. Not every life is meant to follow the same script. Some souls may come here to explore independence, self-growth, service, or other purposes beyond marriage.

When we repeatedly pressure them with questions like “Why aren’t you married yet?”, we may unknowingly add to their burden.

What they need instead is understanding, acceptance, and support.

Moving Toward Compassion

Every individual carries a unique journey shaped by experiences we may or may not fully understand. Rather than forcing everyone into a traditional mold, we can choose compassion.

We can stand beside these women, strengthen them, and respect their choices—whether those choices lead them toward marriage or toward an independent life.

After all, a meaningful life is not defined by marital status.

It is defined by self-respect, inner peace, and the courage to live authentically.

 

What Kept Me Practicing Reiki for 29 Years: And a reflection on practice, patience, and alignment

 

“When a student asked me, ‘You learned Reiki 29 years ago. What kept you doing Reiki self-healing all these years?’

My honest answer was—experience.

Every time life challenged me…
Every time I was tired, confused, hurt, or overwhelmed…
Reiki gave me clarity instead of chaos, calm instead of fear, and strength instead of helplessness.

Self-healing became my quiet conversation with myself…
A space where I could listen, release, and return to balance.

I didn’t continue Reiki because someone told me to.
I continued because my life became lighter, clearer, and more compassionate with it. Also I witnessed how Reiki transformed my Reiki students who diligently practice daily self healing.

And once you feel that transformation within yourself, Reiki is no longer a practice—it becomes a way of living.”

When Reiki Starts Responding: Crossing the Threshold of Deep Connection

Recently, one of my Reiki students asked me a question that truly touched my heart:

“Is it possible that Reiki’s effect or impact changes over time? Earlier, I seldom felt that Reiki was hearing what I was saying. But nowadays, it feels as if the connection is much stronger—almost as if I am being heard more clearly. Is this true? And if yes, is it because of increased practice or something else?”

Reading this message filled me with quiet joy. Because this question does not come from doubt—it comes from experience. It is a sign that the student has crossed an important inner threshold in their Reiki journey.

The Threshold of Reiki Connection

Yes, Reiki’s impact does evolve over time.

Continuous Reiki self-healing practice is required to reach a stage where a deep, living connection is established. Until then, Reiki may feel like a technique—something we do. After crossing this threshold, Reiki becomes something we are.

The time taken to reach this stage varies from person to person. It depends on:

·       One’s current spiritual maturity

·       The sincerity and regularity of practice

·       One’s sadhana in previous incarnations

For some, the connection deepens quickly. For others, it unfolds slowly and gently. There is no comparison—only individual journeys.

What Strengthens the Connection?

I replied to my student with what I have learned through years of practice:

“Regular self-healing strengthens the connection. Over time, a thought crosses your mind—and it manifests.”

But there is more to it than manifestation alone.

With consistent practice, something subtle yet profound happens:
we begin to align more deeply with the Universe itself.

Alignment with Universal Will

As Reiki practice deepens, our desires slowly shift. We no longer wish from restlessness, fear, or lack.
Instead, our thoughts arise from alignment with the Universal will.

When a wish is in harmony with the larger intelligence of the Universe, manifestation feels effortless. At this stage, one naturally feels:

·       “I am being heard”

·       “Things are falling into place”

·       “Life is responding”

In truth, the Universe has always been listening.
It is we who become clearer receivers.

A Teacher’s Quiet Sadness

I have hundreds of Reiki students, and I know—honestly—that not all of them practice daily. This realization fills me with a gentle sadness, because I know what they are missing.

In this Kaliyug, where distractions are endless and the mind is constantly pulled outward, Reiki is the surest and simplest way to:

·       Stay connected to one’s inner self

·       Remain aligned with the Universe

·       Maintain emotional, mental, and spiritual balance

Reiki does not demand renunciation or withdrawal from life. It only asks for regular presence.

Why I Keep Coaxing My Students

Whenever I get the opportunity, I gently remind and coax my students to maintain their daily self-healing practice. Not out of discipline—but out of love.

Because Reiki practiced occasionally is helpful. But Reiki practiced daily is transformative.

Daily practice is what:

·       Builds trust in the unseen

·       Deepens intuition

·       Turns healing into a lived experience

A Gentle Reminder

If you are a Reiki practitioner and feel that your connection is weak or inconsistent, do not lose heart. The connection is not absent—it is ripening.

Show up every day.
Place your hands.
Sit in silence.
Trust the process.

One day, quietly and unmistakably, you will realize:
the connection has always been there—and now you can feel it.

And here is a Reiki affirmation:
“I commit to my daily self-healing. I trust the rhythm of my journey. I allow my connection with the Universe to deepen naturally.”

Pitru Dosha: A Deeper Perspective on Ancestral Karma and Self Healing

 

When Ancestral Suffering Feels Unfair

In Vedic astrology, Pitru Dosha (or Pitra Dosh) is often described as a karmic debt or ancestral imbalance. It is believed to arise from unfulfilled duties, unresolved actions, or disrespect shown to forefathers. The effects, as traditionally explained, can manifest as repeated obstacles in life—health issues, financial instability, delays in marriage, difficulties in childbirth, or a lingering sense that efforts never fully bear fruit.

When people experience such challenges, they often turn to astrologers and spiritual guides. The remedies suggested usually include Shraddha, rituals during Pitra Paksha, ancestral prayers, charity, and acts of service—meant to pacify the ancestors and seek their blessings.

And there comes a very natural question:

“Why should I suffer or do remedies for the sins committed by my ancestors?”

This question is not only valid—it opens the door to a much deeper understanding of karma.

The Forgotten Wisdom behind Ancestral Naming

In earlier times, it was common for new born babies to be named after their grandparents or ancestors. This was not merely a cultural tradition or a way of honoring elders.

It reflected an ancient spiritual understanding—that souls often reincarnate within the same family lineage.

Families were seen not just as genetic lines, but as karmic circles, where unresolved lessons continue until awareness and healing take place.

What If the Ancestor Was… You?

Here lies the profound twist.

If souls do reincarnate within the same families, then the so‑called ancestor whose actions created imbalance may not be a distant, unrelated person.

It could have been your own soul, living in a previous body.

From this perspective, Pitru Dosha is no longer about paying for someone else’s mistakes. It becomes a mirror—reflecting unfinished karma seeking resolution.

The challenges you face are not punishments. They are reminders.

And the remedies are not acts of obligation toward ancestors—but acts of self‑healing and redemption.

Why the Remedies Still Matter

When you perform ancestral rituals, prayers, or acts of service:

• You are acknowledging unresolved karma
• You are taking responsibility at a soul level
• You are consciously choosing awareness over ignorance

Rituals like Shraddha and Pitru Paksha are symbolic tools. Their deeper purpose is to bring humility, gratitude, and surrender—qualities that dissolve karmic knots.

Charity, service, and conscious living further accelerate this healing by balancing past actions with present awareness.

From Blame to Responsibility

The moment we move from the question “Why should I do this for them?” to “What is this teaching me?” transformation begins. Pitru Dosha then stops being a curse and becomes an opportunity—to break cycles, heal lineages, and evolve consciously.

When one person heals, the entire ancestral line heals through them. Perhaps ancestral suffering is not about burden—but about continuity. What was once unconscious now seeks awareness. What was once ignored now seeks resolution. And maybe, just maybe, the soul that is ready to heal it… is you.

By choosing understanding over resistance, you don’t just honor your ancestors—you liberate yourself.