‘A woman’s life is not complete without experiencing motherhood’. ‘It is the deep desire of every woman to become a mother.’ These were the common sayings I started hearing from childhood. When I look at the olden days, the first saying made a lot of sense. A woman’s duty was to look after the house and just serve others. Then being a mother gave her an opportunity to call something her ‘very own’, the new life that was totally dependent on her gave her a sense of being someone in power.
And the second one, ‘It is the deep desire
of every woman to become a mother’ no longer holds true. Many youngsters
approach me to find a solution to the intense stress they experience by undue
pressure from parents and in-laws to conceive and she is not interested at all.
Stress beyond imagination
No doubt, motherhood is an amazing
experience, but so are many other things in life. For somebody who is creative,
a literary work or artistic expression can give equal or more joy and fulfillment.
To a modern working woman without any help from relatives, motherhood is a high
stress situation. Since I am a healer I get to hear from many youngsters that
they are not interested in having a child, but parents and relatives are
forcing them so much. One lady went ahead and had a baby and a week after the
child was born (on experiencing exhaustion of looking after the new born and
sleepless nights), she shouted at the mother, “If you pressurize me to have
another child, I will kill you and the child.” To talk like that to one’s
mother, you can imagine the frustration she must have had.
Goody goody three years
Taking care of a baby up to three years of
age is a very pleasant experience, if one is not sensitive about the physical
work involved. Once the child starts developing its own mind, it becomes a
daily tug of war. Mother of a five year old told me in utter despair, “When he
comes home from school, he will take my mobile phone and keep playing with it
till the battery charge is exhausted. He won’t go out and play with friends.” When
I asked why she couldn’t hide the phone, she told that she has tried and
wherever she hid, he would dig it out! And once the child becomes a teenager,
parents get diabetes and high blood pressure from the day to day tension. Of
course these types of challenges were there in the yester years too, but there
is no comparison as the present day children have access to the internet and
they know millions of ways to ‘enjoy’ life.
Humans are the cancer on the earth
By overpopulation and by destroying the
earth in every possible way, humans are proving to be the cancer on the earth.
Look at all other living beings. They live in tune with the Nature and give
back to the nature more than they take from it. But we as a race believe in
over consumption and destruction.
At the soul level, we are aware of the fact
that we are all One and it is time to curtail this overpopulation. I strongly
recommend reading Michael Newton’s ‘Journey of souls’ to understand that in the life between life stage we make a blue print of the
future incarnation we are going to take. Many souls decide to not have children
and that is the reason they don’t conceive naturally. Modern science has advanced
so much that there are many successful methods to over ride nature. But sadly, sometimes
nature retaliates.
Let us look at IVF
IVF is commonly recommended for the
following fertility problems: in case of blocked or damaged fallopian tubes or
any other problem where IVF has been identified as the only treatment likely to
help one get pregnant, if the partner has a minor problem with his sperm, as a
primary treatment for infertility in women over age 40.
In the stimulation phase, IVF treatment
starts from day 1 of the period. In a natural monthly cycle, the ovaries normally
produce 1 egg. Medication is administered for 8-14 days to encourage the
follicles in the ovaries (where the eggs live) to produce more eggs. The
specialist prescribes medication specific to the client’s body and treatment
plan. It’s usually in the form of injections, which can vary from 1-2 for the
cycle, or 1-2 per day. It can be daunting, but the fertility nurse will be
there to show exactly how and where to give the injections. The partner can get
involved too and watch and learn together to get it right. It quickly becomes a
habit and one becomes an expert in no time.
Later, the eggs are collected from the
ovaries under general anesthesia. The fertilization takes place in a dish, embryo
is transferred into a special incubator where the conditions for growth and
development are perfect. In about 5 to 6 days the embryo is transferred into
the uterus. In some weak, or incompetent, cervix cases, a cervical stitch will
be scheduled during early pregnancy to try and stop the cervix opening and
potentially initiating a miscarriage.
So basically, when the mother decides ‘by
hook or crook I am going to get a baby’, this thought with its emotion is
transferred to the baby, or a soul with similar thought pattern will be attracted
to the womb.
And when a child is born by surrogacy, it
is going to inherit the moral fabric of the surrogate mother, who in many cases
will be doing it for the money.
The outcome can be disastrous
When the pregnancy has been achieved by
torturing the mother’s body, the message the child gets is ‘I am precious, you
are dispensable.’ When that child becomes an adult and starts behaving in the
same line, all hell is let loose, as can be seen here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7ywewMLSYKQ
From where is he/she getting this moral character?
It is the parents who mould the child’s character. When proper basic foundation
is not provided, because they are not treated as another ordinary family
member, but as somebody so precious (remember all the struggles undergone to
get a progeny?), how can they act normal and be compassionate?
Embrace and enjoy life
Remember that you have planned your life at the
soul stage. Live in the moment and enjoy to the fullest. If you are blessed
with children in the normal biologic way, go ahead and enjoy parenthood.
Believe that we are souls out here to get a human experience. Either we have
been parents in our previous lives or will be in future lives. If at the soul
level we have decided to not have children in this life, it is to gain experience and
expertise in some other field. Find it out and get head on into it and achieve maximum experience. Don’t compare your life with others’ lives and make it
hell.
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